What guys look for in a girl personality
It's not all about looks. Business Insider Unsurprisingly, mostly male scientists have done gobs of research trying to figure out what women want in men. But they have spent much less time uncovering the reverse: what makes women attractive to men. Let's not even get started on the dearth of research on what men find attractive in other men, or women in other women. These studies often conclude that various aspects of women's bodies make them more appealing because men think that they're more fertile — insert eye roll here. Some of the studies are small, or included only Western college students, so they cannot be overgeneralized.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: Which Do Guys Prefer Looks or Personality -- Gabrielle Morris
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- Surprising traits men find attractive
- Gentlemen Speak: 6 Things Guys Care About More Than Looks
- 6 Personality Traits Men Find Irresistibly Attractive
- 9 Personality Traits Men Want In A Woman
- 5 Truly Attractive Traits Men Look For In A Life-Long Partner
- 27 Guys On The One Personality Trait They Can’t Resist In A Girl
- Personality Traits Men Look For In The Lady Of Their Dreams
Surprising traits men find attractive
Eavesdrop on any pre-date pep talk, and you'll probably hear the typical woman-to-woman dating advice: Play it cool, do your hair like this—and whatever you do, don't wear that. But while those traditional tips aren't necessarily wrong, there are other, way more important traits that research shows men find attractive—and they have nothing to do with your physical appearance.
The problem: Traditional dating advice has been leading us on a wild goose chase, one that leads away from the possibility of real, healthy love, says Ken Page, the author of Deeper Dating.
Relationships are built on authenticity and connection, he explains. And the best news? You probably already have them. The most important characteristic is also the most basic, Page says. One major study asked 10, men and women what quality they find most important in a mate. The number one response across the board? The problem? And it doesn't take a lot to demonstrate these traits. Small acts of kindness, like being on time, letting the other person order first and choose where to sit, and being polite to the server, are clear ways to show consideration.
Forget playing it cool. Researchers who study speed dating events—where men and women basically make decisions in mere minutes—found that simply showing interest can build attraction.
How to do it: Listen closely and ask questions, Page suggests. Also, consider body language. Research shows that bodily movements, controlled by the limbic system in our brain, are particularly important for romance, because that part of our brain is also responsible for our feelings of love fascinating, right?
Focus on positive body language: leaning in toward the other person, smiling, and keeping eye contact, suggests Jeremy Nicholson, Ph. Beauty really is more than skin deep. Research shows that positive personality traits can impact perceptions of physical attractiveness, Nicholson says. It may not be groundbreaking, but men are indeed attracted to pleasant, positive, and cheerful personalities in women, he explains.
These positive personality traits are associated not only with higher physical attraction but also social attraction—a key factor in choosing a long-term partner. Can't lie for the life of you? That's a good thing when it comes to love.
For one, research has shown men are more sensitive to sexual infidelity than women likely for evolutionary reasons—they want to be sure their offspring is actually theirs! And it's not like you needed another reason to be honest, but research finds that perceived honesty affects judgments of physical attractiveness as well, Nicholson says. In the study, participants deemed "honest" people as more fit, healthy, and kind.
No matter how perfect your relationship is, fights happen. But there are four fighting styles, known in psychology as the four horseman of divorce , which signal a relationship is doomed, says Sean Horan, Ph. They are: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling, or becoming non-responsive—the most damaging behavior of all, research shows. When fighting, remember that you care about each other and that you have the same goals, Horan says.
And don't shut your S. Talk about the issue, watch your words, and try to use "I" statements "I feel disregarded when you're late to events" rather than blaming "you" statements "You are never on time! Learn how to Confront Common Relationship Roadblocks with advice from experts.
Finally: Your obsession with Harry Potter or that passion for tap dancing pay off. So despite what Victoria's Secret catalogues may suggest, there's no need to be the same as everyone else.
It may sound conventional, but being yourself is a much better strategy, Nicholson says. Translation: Do you, especially if that "you" includes wizadry and tap shoes. Want to take up something new? It's the same with a relationship: Of course you like being with the person, but you can't be with him all the time. Plus, in today's society, we've become more reliant on our partners to meet basically all of our needs, says Page.
Bottom line: Keep up your yoga-and-brunch dates with the girls, and encourage him to hang out with the guys. By Brooke Blue. Save FB Tweet ellipsis More. Good news for single women: Guys want more than a pretty face! These unconventional traits turn him on, proving you can attract men sans-makeover. Start Slideshow. Image zoom. Replay gallery. Pinterest Facebook. Up Next Cancel. Share the Gallery Pinterest Facebook. Everything in This Slideshow. All rights reserved.
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Gentlemen Speak: 6 Things Guys Care About More Than Looks
What do you first notice when meeting someone new? The answer is different for everyone. While some may be great body language readers, others may find more importance in the conversation they have when first meeting someone.
Believe it or not, you don't have to hit the gym 7 days a week or go on some crazy diet to please your man. Harriet King June 18th Lifestyle. Good looks are a huge benefit for a girl trying to catch a man's attention. But it's not enough to make him fall in love and dream about building a long and happy relationship. Self-improvement is something we should all consider.
6 Personality Traits Men Find Irresistibly Attractive
Eavesdrop on any pre-date pep talk, and you'll probably hear the typical woman-to-woman dating advice: Play it cool, do your hair like this—and whatever you do, don't wear that. But while those traditional tips aren't necessarily wrong, there are other, way more important traits that research shows men find attractive—and they have nothing to do with your physical appearance. The problem: Traditional dating advice has been leading us on a wild goose chase, one that leads away from the possibility of real, healthy love, says Ken Page, the author of Deeper Dating. Relationships are built on authenticity and connection, he explains. And the best news? You probably already have them. The most important characteristic is also the most basic, Page says. One major study asked 10, men and women what quality they find most important in a mate. The number one response across the board? The problem?
9 Personality Traits Men Want In A Woman
They say that beauty is only skin deep, but there's no denying that those first impressions are important ones. Ever wonder what men are really noticing, and what they really, honestly find the most attractive? Fortunately, there have been at least a handful of studies that have tried to find out just what men and women find attractive in their prospective partners, and it turns out that sometimes, it's so hardwired into us that we don't even realize what we're looking for — until we find it. Blondes have more fun, and what's more wholesome than a blue-eyed blonde?
A good man is brave, right? And strong? And chivalrous?
5 Truly Attractive Traits Men Look For In A Life-Long Partner
There are certain traits that the majority of heterosexual women look for in a man: kindness, GSOH, an understanding that the fight for gender equality is very much still ongoing. But other aspects of your personality could be a deal-breaker for one woman and simultaneously the reason another falls in love with you. With the advent of dating apps meaning another love interest is never more than a right swipe away, it can be hard to commit. So if you're wondering whether to settle down with your current partner, it might be worth taking a step back and asking yourself whether he ticks the boxes below.SEE VIDEO BY TOPIC: What Do Guys First Notice About You?
How do you know if you've got "the right stuff" that drives men wild, turns us on , and keeps us hooked on YOU? Some guys light up at the idea of a "brainy type" who likes to discuss semiotics or the merits of the Rococo Art Movement Other guys are looking for an "athletic type" who likes to sweat it out in Crossfit or train for marathons. SOME personality traits are universally attractive to men -- check out this week's video to find out what they are! I'm curious from you, have I missed any traits?
27 Guys On The One Personality Trait They Can’t Resist In A Girl
For years, we've talked about finding the right woman -- s omeone we can ride the waves of life with, who will stand by our side for better or for worse. As a man, committing to The One is among the most important decisions we make in life; some may even argue it is the most important. Moreover, do soulmates really exist? Shula Melamed , a relationship and well-being coach, previously told Elite Daily that actively looking for your life partner may actually be counterproductive. There's so much that can go into deciding who to share your life with, so I compiled a list of the qualities to look for whenever you feel a spark with someone new. LeslieBeth Wish previously told elite Daily.
And it makes me sad. But not for the reason you may think. But yet, they never tell us what guys appreciate from within.
Personality Traits Men Look For In The Lady Of Their Dreams
Good artistic abilities. It makes me want to learn more about her. A woman who always smiles.
Before you roll your eyes and sigh because I sound just like that stereotypical looks-are-the-only-thing-that-matter kind of guy, hear me out. Attraction is physical, emotional, relational, intellectual, and maybe even spiritual for some. Sure, a man wants to be with someone he finds physically attractive, but I think we all do. The problem comes when we feel that someone values our looks more than our personality or intellect or any other more substantial characteristic.